Dating Thai boys (55) I’m
busy
Recently, somewhere I read
something like:
source: internet (poorly
stitched together by myself)
If it is important to you, you will find a way. If not, you will find an excuse.
No matter how busy a
person is, if they really care, they will always find the time for
you.
Instead of saying “I don’t
have time” try saying “it’s not a priority”, and see how that
feels.
And all of them apply to me
and the boys I’m dating. (I call all activities online or in
real life where I hope for sex at the end "dating".)
At any given time over the
last years, there have been 5 Thai boys who are interested in me, but not so
much my type, who would contact me every now and then, but I would not take the
call (I mean not hang up, but hold the phone in my hand or put
it on the table and wait until the call ends, so the boy doesn't know I received
the call), or do not reply instantly, and tell them I’m
busy.
But the truth is, I’m not
interested or don’t want to go out or have other priorities, or even while
telling one boy I’m busy, asking another boy if he is free. For the right boy, I
could go anytime, anywhere.
And there have been 5 Thai
boys who I’m interested in, and who I would contact every now and then with
intention to meet (for sex), and who would either read and not reply, or reply
slowly, or tell me they are busy.
This is a huge waste of
everyone’s time and energy, and after texting and calling with a boy Kuk Chan I
had on 15nov2016 (promising in bed) and who lives just 3 km from me, for now 8
months (contact about twice per month, that’s 16 exchanges of text or calls, and
he was never free to meet me), I write the following (my Thai and my
translation):
พูดตรง
ไม่เกรงใจ สนใจเจอกันอีกมีเซ็กอีกหรือเปล่า ถ้าไม่สนใจไม่เสียเวลาอีก
คุยกันหลายเดือนแต่ไม่ว่าง
Be straight, no need to be
considerate. Are you interested to meet again for sex or not? If not, we don’t
have to waste time. We have been chatting a lot but you are never
free.
The answer same day: ไม่สนใจครับ I’m not interested.
(Ask an educated Thai friend how he would say it:
พูดตรงๆ อยากเจอกันอีกป่าว ถ้าไม่สนใจ จะได้เลิกคุย
but he misses the sex part, or maybe that's un-Thai and implied when we had sex before.)
Finally confirmed, as I had suspected. Can cross this one off my list after one promising encounter in bed and 8 months of fruitless chat.
The answer same day: ไม่สนใจครับ I’m not interested.
(Ask an educated Thai friend how he would say it:
พูดตรงๆ อยากเจอกันอีกป่าว ถ้าไม่สนใจ จะได้เลิกคุย
but he misses the sex part, or maybe that's un-Thai and implied when we had sex before.)
Finally confirmed, as I had suspected. Can cross this one off my list after one promising encounter in bed and 8 months of fruitless chat.
And continue with the next (Benz Korat 24mar2017, now ex-BFC2in2017, not even fuck buddy; our ideas about friendship and sex and relationship are incompatible):
Here as well, after 4 months of fruitless chat (I would have gone to Korat to
And now the earliest case I
remember where a boy is not interested. We chatted on Camfrog in
2012 (and from his side it was all: miss you, love you, when do
you come to see me?), then moved chat to facebook and tried to meet in 2012
and 2013.
Chat from facebook, the boy’s
texts in italic:
You're friends on Facebook
Studied (edit) at (edit) University
08/02/2012
9:13pm
Hello, how are you? Hope to
see you again on camfrog. Regards, Christian
08/02/2012
10:45pm
Yes!!
11/10/2012
7:39pm
Hello, I will go to Thailand
for holiday from 22.11. to 12.12.2012. I would like to go to Chantaburi and meet
you. On which days are you free? Regards, Christian
11/10/2012
8:53pm
I have to study
everyday
11/10/2012
11:04pm
Even on weekend? I can help
you with English language if you want. Or we can try again next
year.
Aha What's month you come
to Thailand ??
11/11/2012
3:24am
I come to Thailand in two
weeks November 21st to December 12th
11/11/2012
7:55am
Holiday
?
11/12/2012
3:15am
Yes, I go to Thailand for
holiday.
11/12/2012
1:42pm
Aha
03/31/2013
9:51pm
Hello, I am now living and
working in Bangkok, in Lak Si area. If you come to Bangkok, please let me know.
I hope we can meet.Or I can go to see you in Chantaburi. When are you free?
Regards, Christian
04/01/2013
1:16pm
Tomorrow I go to Chiang
Mai with my Parents >3<
04/29/2013
5:36pm
Hello, I want to go to
Chantaburi for holiday. When are you free to meet? Regards,
Christian
I have to study everyday I
don't have freetime I'm so sad !
Do you study even on the
weekend?
Yes
If you are free, please let
me know. I am free every Saturday and Sunday and can come to
Chantaburi.
Yes When I have freetime I
want to tell U
05/17/2013
5:19pm
Hello, what do you do next
weekend and 24.05. (Holiday Visakha Bucha)?
05/18/2013
12:20am
Yes
05/18/2013
12:06pm
Are you free next weekend? I
want to go to Chantaburi for holiday and meet you.
Free
05/19/2013
12:17pm
So I can come to Chantaburi
and we can meet? I would like to go to วัดเขาสุกิม.
(Wat Khao Sukhim)
05/19/2013
2:03pm
OK Are you sure ? Sometime
I think I don't have free time for because next week I think my teacher give a
many many homework for weekend.
(Read the above again. The boy is back pedaling. Here I have this picture from an adventure movie where the actors are on a boat floating down on river, and then the current gets stronger, and they can hear thunder, and realize they are approaching a waterfall from the upper side!)
(Read the above again. The boy is back pedaling. Here I have this picture from an adventure movie where the actors are on a boat floating down on river, and then the current gets stronger, and they can hear thunder, and realize they are approaching a waterfall from the upper side!)
05/20/2013
12:51am
I can help you with homework.
555.
05/20/2013
7:50am
;D
05/20/2013
4:33pm
Where in Chantaburi do you
live? Can I stay at your place or is there a hotel that is
close?
05/22/2013
8:20pm
Hello, what's your phone
number?
You don't come to
Chanthaburi because I don't a free time I'm sorry for
everything
ok, no problem. maybe next
time
Thank
you
06/07/2013
10:39am
Hello, I will be in
Chantaburi this weekend, to meet a friend. If you are free you can call
me.
06/07/2013
12:34pm
OK Your friend is come to
chanthaburi ?
06/07/2013
2:37pm
My friend lives in
Chantaburi. I will stay at his place. My number is (edit). What's your phone
number?
08/05/2013
9:04pm
Hello, how are you? What do
you do next weekend and Monday (holiday)?
I have midterm
test
02/19/2014
9:21pm
Hello, how are you? I will go
to Chantaburi this or next month, to เขาคิชกูฏ
(Khao Kitchakut) What is the best time to go there? Do you have time to
meet?
I give up. Here the signals
are so strong that even someone as socially challenged as I understands that he
is not interested in meeting. He was stringing me along (attention whore?) as
long as I was far away, but when the plans get concrete,
back-pedal.
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ChristianPFC
